As the blossoming May flowers springing up in the wake of April showers paint the landscape of the season, many of us are in awe of the new birth of the outside world around us. It is truly a testament to God’s amazing restorative abilities that He could take the shriveled up trees, grass and plants which were lifeless a few weeks ago, and breathe a new wind of color, life and warmth into them.
This theme of newness of life also brings to mind for many the woman at the center of their lives: their mothers. This month, many of us are preparing to send cards, gifts and perhaps make arrangements for a special brunch to celebrate our mother’s and all of the sacrifices, love and encouragement they have given us over the years.
However, while countless women are filled with love and happy memories as they recount what their mothers have meant to them over the years, not all are looking forward to the holiday as they are filled with anxiety, pain, hurt or perhaps anger that has characterized their relationship with mom. As a Life Coach, I serve women around the U.S. and commonly hear stories of women who have been abandoned and rejected by their mothers, given up for adoption, put out of her mother’s home because of another relationship she wanted to pursue and the daughter was a distraction, women who’s mother’s died in childbirth, women who’s moms are mentally ill and more.
In this case, Mother’s Day can be a very bitter sweet occasion. For some women with strained relationships with their moms, they have been able to forgive and ultimately reconcile the relationships over time. However, on the other hand some mother-relationships never truly enjoy a second-chance at a relationship with their mothers, making this a very difficult time of the year to endure for them.
Whichever side of the fence you may find yourself on, it is worthwhile to be mindful that our parents are human, and therefore imperfect. Yet though many of the poor and selfish choices of some of our parents have hurt us in deeply significant ways, we should be reminded that God promises us in Romans 8:28 that all things work together for our good when we are called according to His purpose for us. This means that although we may not be able to go back and change the past or remove the hurt, God has a desire to keep us through His grace in-spite of any shortcoming our mothers may have had which harmed us physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually. Please remember that no matter which category your mom falls in, her choice to give you life is integral to God’s plan for the wonderful things He wants to do through and in you.
With that said, my prayer is that however you choose to spend this day, you are filled with the love of God and the special role He gives to mothers in the life-bringing process. If you are unable to share the day with your natural mother, you may be able to celebrate a mother-figure in your life, friends and loved ones who are mothers, or perhaps a day of reflection on the type of mother you would like to be to your children.
In closing, I would like to share this word of prayer for the special place mothers have in our lives and world:
Lord thank you for all women in the world because we are all unique gifts from you to each other. Lord help each of us to recognize that challenges come in life for all of us, but there is no challenge that we can’t overcome with your help and love. I ask you to comfort all of my sister’s around the world who have lost their mom. I ask you to give those who have been abandoned and rejected by their mom a heart to forgive. I ask that for those whose mom is not mentally stable that you give them peace. To the many women who are without children and have served as a mom to other women children I ask God to bless you with the desires of your heart, and to the sister’s whose mom has been there in every season to love, provide, support and extend guidance I ask that you give them a heart of gratitude.
Happy Mother’s Day to you ALL!
Coach Lolita
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