Giving The Best That I’ve Got

Have you ever felt like you were doing something to the best of your ability and someone brings it to your attention that your best is not good enough for them? Or perhaps you are someone who sets unrealistically high expectations for other people that are impossible to meet. Whichever side of the fence you are on, a focus on performance and unmet expectations is almost always a recipe for disaster in many relationships.

Below I have a few tips that may help you to put into perspective the challenges you are having as it relates to embracing and appreciating others for what they bring to the table.

1.  Examine where your expectations come from and why you have set them so high? Could it be that you have not fully considered that this person is created different then you or that many times our expectations of others have come from our past experiences (both positive and negative) us or even what we perceive in our minds would be acceptable for another? (See Psalm 51:10.)

2. Choose to give others permission to be who they are. Often people are incapable of meeting our standards, so be willing to meet them where they are. Take time to understand the person, who they are, what they believe, what they like and dislike. I believe that when we take the time to get a better understanding about an individual, whether in your family or, business or other realm of life, we can begin to see what they can naturally share out of who they are and their natural skills and talents as opposed to fitting them into the box you created for them. (See Galatians 6:9)

3. Remember that we are not to judge ourselves out of good intention and judge others on their inability to become what we have created them to be in our mind. (See Ephesians 4:29)

Seek out the best qualities in others and learn to praise those things as you share the things that need developing. When you accept people for who they are instead of trying to make them someone you want them to be you usually will get more out of them then you ever expected. (See Proverbs 27:17)

I hope you found this information helpful and applicable to your circumstance. If you are experiencing difficulty with setting your expectations of others too high, please give me a call for your FREE 20 minute consultation.