It’s that time of year again when we celebrate our dads. As one who trusts and believes in Jesus I learned that a 
father was to provide for you, protect you, encourage you, bless you and emulate for His children the heart of God as Father. However we live in a Fatherless society where many fathers have lost their way and identity, leaving the mother and children to take on responsibilities and roles that God never intended for them to.
In the United States the average household is run by a single mother. These mothers take care of day to day responsibilities of running the home and making sure everyone in the home is provided for. As a result, when Father’s Day comes around in June, it often brings to mind feelings of abandonment, anger, and resentment for many who had to endure life with a gaping hole in their hearts created by the absence of their father.
Father’s Day is a rather difficult day for me because my Father was killed early on in my life. However in the absence of my Father I had the awesome opportunity to celebrate other men in my life. I have two uncles (Ray and Ronnie) who have been very instrumental in me becoming the person that I am and for that I am grateful. The other man that I have had the awesome opportunity to celebrate for the last sixteen years is my ex-husband who has also been instrumental in me becoming the woman I am and for that I am also grateful. If you have lost your father, my heart goes out to you and I pray the Lord gives you strength and comfort to make it through this season. I also pray that on this fine day God has graced you with good men who has bless your life as these three gentleman have mine and that you will celebrate them.
To those whose father has never been present or was perhaps physically present but not emotionally available, my heart goes out to you in this season and I pray that God has been able to fill that void for you as a father or that He has appointed another awesome man to walk through life’s journey with you. If this hasn’t happened for you yet, I would encourage you to ask God to send you someone or that He would fill that void for you. The Word of God says “Even if my mother and father abandons me, the Lord will hold me close” (Psalms 27:10).
Finally, if you are struggling with feelings of anger and hurt towards your father, I encourage you to seek God’s help in coming to a place of forgiveness. That is not to undermine or minimize any legitimate pain caused by your father’s choices which have left you hurting. It is, however, said to emphasize the fallen nature of humanity and our need for grace and forgiveness from those we are the closest to and whom we have hurt the most. For many, forgiveness the critical first step towards healing and may also unlock the door towards reconciliation if the opportunity presents itself and is not harmful or toxic to reconnect with your absent father. However this season is spent for you, I pray that you are filled with the love of God and brought closer to the relationship you desire with your father.
Happy Father’s Day to all!!
-Coach Lolita
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